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Few days ago I happened to come across a few videos by Howtotellyourchild.com regarding child abuse. The statistics of the number of children getting abused were totally shocking for me as a mother. Lots of efforts were put into writing this post. Many a times I tried to write about child abuse, but I do not know. Even the thought about is scares me! Maybe that’s the same with us all mothers. When it comes to the topic how to Teach your kids about their private parts, most of us parents are in deep dilemma as in where to start.
If at all anyone could help our kids to protect themselves from such situations, it would be us mothers in the first place. It is us mothers who can tell or who must be able to tell even the slightest change or fear in our kids.
I believe the most important thing to do is to make our kids aware of the concept of “Bad Touch”. Only when they know something is going wrong, will they be able to protect themselves, or run for help. This could be a very very difficult thing to do. Kids even as early as 3 to 4 years are being abused. Sexually abused! The statistics would horrify any mother!
By making your kids aware and following these simple rules may actually help protect our little ones! Here I have tried to summarize the most important rules regarding private parts for a kid! Teach these rules to them as early as possible.
Let them first know what are their private parts! This is in fact a difficult task. They are too small to understand at the age of 3 or 4 years. Slow and steady is the mantra when it comes to teaching kids anything.
I have created few kid-friendly illustrations. Use kid friendly illustrations like this to teach them the areas that are considered private.
Bad Touch Alert!
Most of the organization working against child abuse have created these 5 alerts as the basic rules to teach kids.
- Touch alert
- See alert
- Talk Alert
- Alone Alert
- Hold Alert
Out of them Bad Touch is the most difficult one to explain to the kids. We need to make it clear to the kids that their private parts are not meant to be touched by anyone.
The Other alerts
Let them know nobody asks to see or hold their private parts. If a doctor, nurse etc. needs to examine their private parts, it is only to be done in the presence of their dad or mom.
No matter how much ever we protect our kids and keep them safe under our wings, as they start schooling or go to a baby sitter, things change! Try to toilet train the kids as early as possible. Teach them how to keep their private parts clean.
It is obvious for their care takers, Nannies at pre-school etc. to help them clean their private parts after toilet. But make sure you teach your child to use his own hands to clean those areas with minimum help from others. Teach them to tell their care takers that they would clean those areas themselves and they just need help and guidance in pouring water etc. from care takers.
Since the “private areas” are only theirs, they should be taught not to talk about it in public, to friends or anyone other than you. If anyone tries to talk about it to them, let them know its to be reported to mom or dad.
Not only are the private parts to be kept away from abuse, but also from germs! Teach them to wash their genitals after use of toilet and how to keep them clean.
Until recent times, many of the parents did not emphasize on their boys to wear an underwear. Some parents even now do that. We should always teach our little boys from very early stage to wear an under pant.
And for the girls, when you let them wear skirts and frocks, its always better to let them wear a knee length underpants. Little girls are very vulnerable until they know how to protect themselves from wrong people. Do this at least when you have to send them away to schools and places where you cannot keep a watch on them always.
“Prevention is always better than cure”
Keep it dry
It is natural for the kids underwear to get wet by mistake while they use toilets etc. Tell them to ask for a change of underwear whenever it gets wet. The moisture build up can be unhygienic and may lead to rashes. Teach them how to wipe and keep the areas dry.
No Touching in Public
Let them know they are not allowed to touch those areas when in public!
Let Mom and Dad know!
If any of the above rules are broken, if they feel uncomfortable, if they have a little secret make sure they are not scared and are free to talk to parents any time in need. Be close to them! Love them and always leave the space and time for an open talk with you.
Let them know you are available to your kids anytime they are in need.
Have I missed out any points? Please feel free to add them here through comments below!
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