10 rules to teach your kids about their Private Parts before they start Schooling!

Rules to Teach Your Kids about their private parts before they start Schooling

Bilna Sandeep

Bilna Sandeep is the founder of this blog. She is a Civil Engineer by profession who is currently on a career break to enjoy the joys of motherhood with her almost 2 year old naughty little boy. During her free time, she loves to write, blog and speak up for the causes she care for in the society.

Few days ago I happened to come across a few videos by Howtotellyourchild.com regarding child abuse. The statistics of the number of children getting abused were totally shocking for me as a mother. Lots of efforts were put into writing this post. Many a times I tried to write about child abuse, but I do not know. Even the thought about is scares me! Maybe that’s the same with us all mothers. When it comes to the topic how to Teach your kids about their private parts, most of us parents are in deep dilemma as in where to start.

Rules to Teach Your Kids about their private parts before they start SchoolingIf at all anyone could help our kids to protect themselves from such situations, it would be us mothers in the first place. It is us mothers who can tell or who must be able to tell even the slightest change or fear in our kids.

I believe the most important thing to do is to make our kids aware of the concept of “Bad Touch”. Only when they know something is going wrong, will they be able to protect themselves, or run for help. This could be a very very difficult thing to do. Kids even as early as 3 to 4 years are being abused. Sexually abused! The statistics would horrify any mother!

By making your kids aware and following these simple rules may actually help protect our little ones! Here I have tried to summarize the most important rules regarding private parts for a kid! Teach these rules to them as early as possible.

  1. Define

Let them first know what are their private parts! This is in fact a difficult task. They are too small to understand at the age of 3 or 4 years. Slow and steady is the mantra when it comes to teaching kids anything.

I have created few kid-friendly illustrations. Use kid friendly illustrations like this to teach them the areas that are considered private.

Private parts of a boy. How to tell your child about private parts
His genitals and his bottom are the private parts for a Boy!
Private parts of a girl. How to tell your child about their private parts
Her genitals, her bottom and her chest are the private parts for a girl
  1. Bad Touch Alert!

Most of the organization working against child abuse have created these 5 alerts as the basic rules to teach kids.

  • Touch alert
  • See alert
  • Talk Alert
  • Alone Alert
  • Hold Alert

Out of them Bad Touch is the most difficult one to explain to the kids. We need to make it clear to the kids that their private parts are not meant to be touched by anyone.

  1. The Other alerts

Let them know nobody asks to see or hold their private parts. If a doctor, nurse etc. needs to examine their private parts, it is only to be done in the presence of their dad or mom.

  1. Toilet Rules!

No matter how much ever we protect our kids and keep them safe under our wings, as they start schooling or go to a baby sitter, things change! Try to toilet train the kids as early as possible. Teach them how to keep their private parts clean.

how to tell your child about their private parts
photo credit: Bathroom reading via photopin (license)

It is obvious for their care takers, Nannies at pre-school etc. to help them clean their private parts after toilet. But make sure you teach your child to use his own hands to clean those areas with minimum help from others. Teach them to tell their care takers that they would clean those areas themselves and they just need help and guidance in pouring water etc. from care takers.

  1. Talking Rules!

Since the “private areas” are only theirs, they should be taught not to talk about it in public, to friends or anyone other than you. If anyone tries to talk about it to them, let them know its to be reported to mom or dad.

  1. Hygiene

Not only are the private parts to be kept away from abuse, but also from germs! Teach them to wash their genitals after use of toilet and how to keep them clean.

  1. Underwear

Until recent times, many of the parents did not emphasize on their boys to wear an underwear. Some parents even now do that. We should always teach our little boys from very early stage to wear an under pant.

And for the girls, when you let them wear skirts and frocks, its always better to let them wear a knee length underpants. Little girls are very vulnerable until they know how to protect themselves from wrong people. Do this at least when you have to send them away to schools and places where you cannot keep a watch on them always.

“Prevention is always better than cure”

  1. Keep it dry

It is natural for the kids underwear to get wet by mistake while they use toilets etc. Tell them to ask for a change of underwear whenever it gets wet. The moisture build up can be unhygienic and may lead to rashes. Teach them how to wipe and keep the areas dry.

  1. No Touching in Public

Let them know they are not allowed to touch those areas when in public!

  1. Let Mom and Dad know!

If any of the above rules are broken, if they feel uncomfortable, if they have a little secret make sure they are not scared and are free to talk to parents any time in need. Be close to them! Love them and always leave the space and time for an open talk with you.

Let them know you are available to your kids anytime they are in need.

Have I missed out any points? Please feel free to add them here through comments below!

10 Rules to Teach Your Kids about their Private Parts Before they Start Schooling

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27 thoughts on “10 rules to teach your kids about their Private Parts before they start Schooling!

  • February 26, 2015 at 10:57 am
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    Well written post on an issue that any parent should be aware and educated upon….
    This has to be shared widely …

    • February 26, 2015 at 11:30 am
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      Thank you very much Santhosh! And thanks for following our blog too 🙂

  • February 26, 2015 at 9:39 pm
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    That’s some useful tip. Well done.

  • February 28, 2015 at 8:38 am
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    Thanks for this! People have been constantly reminding me to teach my kids all these things because of the high number of cases here that it makes me kind of paranoid.

  • February 28, 2015 at 8:44 am
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    Great……..that you talked about this IMPORTANT subject…………which otherwise the society is reluctant

    • February 28, 2015 at 10:38 am
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      Yes! We need to start talking about it to our kids as early as possible!!

  • March 3, 2015 at 10:18 pm
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    A very sensitive topic. The points mentioned by you are so valid, we need to teach our kids these things before its too late.

    • March 3, 2015 at 10:43 pm
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      We need to make them aware as early as possible! After all prevention is better than cure!!

  • March 11, 2015 at 1:36 pm
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    Thanks 🙂

  • June 24, 2015 at 7:18 pm
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    Such a beautiful post apprising us of the importance of the issue. All kids needs to understand this in a manner that they can.
    Thank you, Bilna.

    • June 25, 2015 at 9:53 pm
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      Thanks Alok. Its becoming a very serious issue in our society and we should really do something about it.

  • August 5, 2015 at 2:45 pm
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    This might be a bit off, especially for some conservative parents. But I think this should be a discussion point with our kids. Because if they don’t learn this from us, they might learn this from bad sources.

    • August 5, 2015 at 5:04 pm
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      Hi Joanna

      Nice to have you at our blog. You are right. There are still some parents who feel embarrassed to discuss it with their kids.. Like you said there are so many sources for kids to learn this through Internet or the worst even through strangers.. We never know!

  • September 12, 2015 at 1:20 pm
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    Very sensitive but most needed topic for nowadays. Thanks Bilna …. I think Visual Abuse is also to be avoided. Visual Abuse which i mean is that showing kids with adult pictures or movies, showing their private parts to the kids, being naked in front of kids etc., …So its parents duty to teach them and to protect them…. Good Job !!!

    • September 12, 2015 at 5:24 pm
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      Very much Vasantha.. its we parents who could play a major role in protecting our kids..

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